Hello sweeties, how are you?. It’s been a while since the last time I talked to you. I’m perfectly fine, maybe even better than the last time I made a post! So the reason I haven’t posted is something very common indeed: Perfectionism and Procrastination. Today I want to tell you how they can hinder your growth and what can you do about it.
We all know that perfection doesn’t exist, yet we strive for it. Sometimes, it leads us to disappointment and feelings of “not being good enough”. Other times, it paralyzes us.
Have you heard the term “Analysis paralysis”? That’s what happens when we over-analyze a situation, making it more complex than what it really is. As a result, we end up with so many variables that it’s impossible to make a decision. In the end, no choice is ever made. Nothing happens.
I believe procrastination is the side-kick of perfectionism. When we start thinking about all the blurry steps we need to take to achieve something, we feel overwhelmed. It’s like saying: “I don’t think I have what it takes (insert blurry list of unreal requirements) to do X today” and then we start doing the dishes while pretending the deadline doesn’t exist.
So, over the past weeks I have been thinking (and reading) about how to tackle both issues at once, here is my first aid kit:
- Create habits
- The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg is a good read
- Start small, but be consistent. Consistency is THE key.
- When overwhelmed by tasks, take a breath and do an Eisenhower Matrix (Urgent vs. Important)
- Keep a wall calendar where you can clearly see your tasks (DIY erasable calendar)
- Set your priorities straight, instead of saying “I don’t have time to do X”, make time for it!. I recommend Laura Vanderkam’s TED talk.
- Motivate yourself
- Our brain resists change, that’s a fact, but we can coerce it to cooperate if we bribe it!. Set tiny goals at first and give yourself a reward right away after finishing your task. Tiny goals, tiny rewards. Long goals, small “milestone” rewards and big one at the end
- Just do it!
- It actually works. I have seen it in arts and sports as well. When you are in front of a white page, it’s scary and your brain tells you you’ll mess it up. What I have learned is: FAIL ON PURPOSE. Write a few crappy paragrahs with typos and usnaihd blahe. Just keep writing, realize that imperfection is part of the process, and edit later.
That’s it! I started applying these steps to my Instagram account where I share mostly art. It has worked amazingly well, so I will start applying them to my baby blog which I love so much and neglected in pursue of a perfect child. I have so many books I need to share with you!! So. many. awesome. books. Be prepared 😉
Take care and have a wonderful day!